Two Wolves-Feed Your Strengths

Two Wolves.

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, ' My son, the battle is between two ' wolves ' inside us all.

One is Evil. - It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is Good. - It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. '

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ' Which wolf wins? '

The old Cherokee simply replied, ' The one you feed. '

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Focus on your Strengths

I often talk to clients about their strengths. As a culture we tend to focus on our faults, our gaps, our deficits. We think we need to "fix" our weaknesses. I believe that focusing on your weaknesses takes away from the very things that make you unique and ignores the gifts you have to offer the world and those around you.

I'm a big fan of Positive Psychology and Dr. Martin Seligman. His organization focuses on the concept of Signature Strengths. The philosophy is that you don't have to be different than who you are, you just need to be more of who you are.

How do you do that? Your strengths, specifically our Signature Strengths, will get you through difficulties in your life. Once you identify your signature strengths, you have all you need to get unstuck....focusing on your strengths is the key, not your weaknesses.

Go to http://www.authentichappiness.org/ and take the Signature Strengths Questionnaire and see for yourself! When you are stuck, what strengths are you overusing or underusing? Use that as your guide for your next step. Here's to being more of who you are!

Good luck-would love to hear what you think!

The Love Coach?

Guess what? Another Friday, another radio show!! Tune in to WIBA radio 1310 AM at 10 AM on Friday, March 27th. I'm the guest on Outside the Box with Mitch Henck. My husband told him I was the Love Coach on Connie and Fish and he invited me on!! TUNE IN if you dare!

There's something very interesting about these comedian types liking my stuff-first Connie and Fish, then Mitch Henck. Could it be that my number one signature strength is Playfulness and Humor? Must be why I had such a great time on the Connie and Fish show.

What to know what your Signature Strengths are?

Go to www.authentichappiness.org and click on the Signature Strengths Questionnaire.

This questionnaire will identify your top 5 strengths, called your Signature Strengths because when you are using them, it is effortless and comes naturally. Note that you can also get in trouble if you rely on one of your signature strengths too much. For example, if I relied on my playfulness and humor all the time, it would be a bit much. Good thing I have four other Signature Strengths to balance out my personality!

The best thing is.....when you wrap your life around your top 5 strengths, you don't have to be anything different than you already are....just be more of who you are! If you are ever stuck, look at your signature strengths and see if you are overusing or underusing any of your signature strengths.

Would love to hear what you think of the idea and please share your strengths with me so I can see what great people are in my life!!

Don't forget to tune in on Friday 10 AM, 1310 AM WIBA. It's also live http://www.wiba.com/

Tune in!