Thursday, January 7, 2010

Launching New Website/Blog!!


Hi everyone!

I'm so excited to be announcing the launch of my new website:
www.spaforyoursoulcoach.com which includes my blog! Please check it out! BONUS: Leave comment on my new blog and you'll get a complimentary coaching session (one coaching session per person) to get yourself on track for 2010!!


Happy New Year!


Mary Kay
Your self-care specialist


PS Many thanks to Melodee Patterson of Home Page Construction Company for the development of my website/blog. Her sites are designed on blogging platforms so making changes is no more difficult than posting on a blog! You can do it from anywhere and you don't have to pay a webmaster to do it for you! Plus, she's fabulous to work with!!

Friday, December 18, 2009

Stressed out? Overwhelmed? Feeling a bit Crazy?





Holidays making you a little crazy??

Don't fret, there's hope! (Really)
There's one week to go....here are a few tips that can help get you through the holidays without a visit from the men in white coats.

  1. Breathe.......breathe in for 5 counts, hold for 5 counts and breathe out for 5 counts. Do this at least 3 times to keep oxygen in your body and to slow down!
  2. Do at least one thing for yourself each day - call a friend, take a bath, meet a friend over coffee or glass of wine, have your kids or spouse rub your feet or give you a mini-massage. (I'm heading out soon to have lunch with my husband!)
  3. Check your list and make sure you do the things you love to do and see which items you can forego this year, delegate to someone else, or streamline. (I don't bake, I'm not doing any outside lights this year and I may not get my cards out til New Years!)
  4. Stop periodically to practice gratitude...notice the beauty around you, your friends, family, health, etc. Time passes too quickly, don't miss the goodies.
  5. Remember-what you get done, you get done. Christmas will come whether you're ready or not.
The Grinch couldn't keep Christmas from coming, so who are we to question little Cindy Lew Who, "the best gift isn't from the store or under the tree, it's enjoying the important people in your life!"









Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!


BTW-give yourself something to look forward to AFTER the holidays: De-stress, relax and get energized for great things in 2010! Register for my retreat! Go to link: Women's Retreat for more info. or to register!




Wednesday, December 9, 2009

Be Grateful: 10 Ways to Enjoy Snow Days

It's a blizzard out there!

Time is limited this time of year, you have better things to do than read emails all day, so let me be brief. We tend to look at snow days as days to catch up on work and we don't take the time savor the "gift" we've been given. I've included some ideas that will help you take advantage of the free day. If you must do work, try to set some limits around it and make sure you get some time to enjoy the extra time you've been given.

Here are some ideas:

  1. Curl up on the couch with a good book and cup of hot cocoa.
  2. Put together jigsaw puzzles with the kids.
  3. Commiserate with your neighbors as you're cleaning off sidewalks and driveways.
  4. Initiate a neighborhood snowball fight or snowman making followed by hot cocoa at your house.
  5. Plan your spring break activities.
  6. Have a movie marathon.
  7. Ski down the middle of your street.
  8. Cook "stone soup" using whatever you have in your cupboards and 'frig.
  9. Tell stories about storms of the past
  10. It's a "free" day, do whatever you want!!

PS: If you do not experience snow days and you are in a warm sunny climate.....never mind.



This is your life……make every day a spa day!

c.2009-Copyright by Mary Kay Aide and This Is Your Life Coaching LLC

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Vitamin N for More Balance and Less Stress


I did a presentation today talking about my 5 Strategies for a Stress-Free Holiday. It went well and I think my favorite part was listening to the strategies audience members are already using to help make the holiday season more manageable and more fun. Here are a few of the ideas:
  • Take everyone bowling or to a movie together
  • Strategize and have a budget and plan before you shop.
  • Adjust your activities to match the age group
  • Plan low-keyed activities without the demands of elaborate events
My favorite suggestion and one I hadn't heard before was to take Vitamin N. What's vitamin N? Saying NO! What a great concept! So here's the general idea as the holidays get closer.....You don't have to do it all. Do what you love and what family members love and let the rest go. The more you try to meet everyone's expectations the less manageable and enjoyable the holidays will be. Your joy of the holidays is at least as important as everyone else's. Taking care of yourself and learning to say no will help you avoid the overwhelm and stress that is often part of the holidays.

Enjoy the holidays and don't forget to take your Vitamins!!

This Is Your Life (and Holiday)....Make it What You Want!

Friday, November 20, 2009

Practice Self-Care: You are Worthy


I recieved this poem from a friend/colleague and wanted to pass it on....


One Flaw In Women


Women have strengths that amaze men...
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what
makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their
family and friends.
Women have vital things to say
and everything to give.

HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WOR
TH.



"You are AT LEAST as important as anyone else in your life!"

Mary Kay Aide, Spa for Your Soul Coach


Sunday, November 8, 2009

And the award goes to......Me! (and maybe You!)


I was lucky enough to be awarded the Superior Scribbler Award from Show Me the Mom, which is one of the funniest blogs about raising kids (4 teen boys to be exact)working fulltime outside the home and living to tell about it! It's a must read for all you busy mom's out there. We are NOT alone!!

The Scribbler award comes with some rules:

• Each Superior Scribbler must in turn pass The Award on to 5 most-deserving Bloggy Friends.

• Each Superior Scribbler must link to the author & the name of the blog from whom he/she has received The Award. This one came from
http://www.showmethemom.com

• Each Superior Scribbler must display The Award on his/her blog, and link to This Post, which explains The Award.

• Each Blogger who wins The Superior Scribbler Award must visit this post and add his/her name to the Mr. Linky List. That way, we’ll be able to keep up-to-date on everyone who receives This Prestigious Honor

• Each Superior Scribbler must post these rules on his/her blog.

So, drum roll please, the 5 people I want to pass this along to, in no particular order are:

http://www.cravingbalance.com No need to say more....

http://www.short-temsolutions.com/vablog/ Has some great e-books she calls "instructional fiction" and are written in Janet Evanovich's quirky style. She's also an excellent VA!

http://www.showmethemom.comI know it'a already a winner but I want to pass it on again....I love your blog...never miss it!

http://www.getknownnowblog.comIf you have a business Suzanne Falter-Barns specializes on creating your brand platform and increasing your exposure. She's fun, too!

http://www.kirasabin.com/blog Kira's The Dating Makeover Coach and while I'm married and am way past dating....I love her writing and she has tons of great information presented in her own unique and fun style. She tells you "the truth, the whole truth and nothin' but the truth about dating!"

Would love to have you visit these sites and pass them on.

Spa for Your Soul....Make Everyday a Spa Day!

10 Tips for a Stress Free Holiday

The holiday season is one of the most stressful times of year for many people. It’s a classic example of how we ask too much of ourselves and of others.

November comes around and suddenly we expect to turn into “Martha Stewart!” We want a beautifully decorated house, delicious homemade treats, perfect, well thought out personalized gifts and well-behaved, eternally grateful children......even after we’ve disrupted their sleep routines, filled them up with sugar and drug them to relatives' houses they only see once a year!

So how do you avoid making the holidays humbug? Here are some tips:

1. Ask each family member what their number one favorite part of the holiday is and only do those. You don’t have to do everything! You might be surprised that there are some things that aren’t as important as you thought.


2. Skip the holiday cards-send New Years cards in January or Valentine cards in February when you have more time. When you send something later, people are more likely to read it. If you send cards and family updates in January or February there’s a better chance they’ll remember what it said.

3. Give theme gifts: magazine subscriptions, donations in their name, gift cards, tickets to a concert, movie, play, etc. Go through a list of magazines and choose one that fits each person on your list. Think about their favorite store, go online and order a gift card for them. Give them tickets to an event you both like and maybe they’ll share the second ticket-the gift that keeps on giving.

4. Go to bed for a nap after Thanksgiving Dinner and set the alarm for midnight New Year's Eve. Thought I’d toss that in for fun.

5. Make a list before shopping! Nothing is more time consuming and crazy making than wandering around the mall waiting for the perfect gift to jump out at you or having so many gifts jumping out at you that you feel like your brain will explode! Go through catalogs or magazines for ideas, decide what you want and buy only what’s on your list, or better yet, do all your shopping online!

6. Go shopping with a friend and combine it with a massage, spa treatment, sauna or a soak in a hot tub. Wouldn't it be great to shop for an hour or two and follow it with a great meal or spa date afterwards!

7. Breathe……breathe…….breathe. A deep breath will help you slow down to think and make better decisions. You know that last minute craziness that happens right before guests arrive-your mind races and you're bouncing from one thing to another. Then the door bell rings. STOP! Take a deep breath and your mind and body will automatically slow down. What's done is done....let it go.

8. Make the holiday meal a group event: ask guests to bring part of the meal. If you are hosting an event, let guests know up front that you are happy to provide the main dish and assign or let them choose a side dish to bring. Then they don't need to bother with a hostess gift either. And really, how many candles or cute knick knacks do you need?

9. Schedule FUN things for yourself as well as the kids. While you do lots for your families and friends this time of year, don’t forget to do something for yourself-go to a movie, buy yourself a little gift, hang out with a friend, go skiing or try something you’ve always wanted to do. This is your holiday, too. You deserve to have some fun!

10. And finally, borrowed from professional organizers, do only the things you need to do and the things you love to do. Let go of the rest. What traditions do you love and which ones feel like chores? Going back to Tip #1 - only do the number one favorites. And don’t forget, your favorites count as well-it's the ultimate self-care. (Actually, your favorites count more because "when mama ain't happy, nobody's happy!")

Bottom line....do activities you truly love and you'll be energized and happy. How can you enjoy the true meaning of the holidays, whatever that means for you, if you're stressed out and exhausted! Have a happy holiday, you deserve it!